Prostitution: A choice?
I know men who have completed their undergraduate study in the Indian Institute of Technology, Madras and have then decided to do their graduate study in the US of A. And what do these men think is their biggest achievement once they reach there? Going to a STRIP CLUB. or fucking a commercial sex worker. Why do i pick this college specifically? Because these men have "proven" their intelligence fours years before they graduated. Because these men claim to be in the top 0.01% of the population. Because they take great pride in their ability!
And what do these supremely arrogant men do? Actively participate in pornography. LIVE. Or have sexual intercourse with a woman who they the pay for the "service". Dont they feel any guilt? Of course not! After all they didnt FORCE the woman into that line of trade! The woman CHOSE to be there. The woman CHOSE her profession. It is not illegal. There was no coercion.
And what is their excuse for doing what they do? Oh I'm sorry! These men (correction... Men in general) don't need an excuse for going to a strip club or a commercial sex worker. Why do they go anyway? "Curiousity" is the number-one answer. What are you curious about? It is not like a zoo now, is it? Those women are there because men like YOU pay them to be there. They do what they do because men like YOU pay them to do it. You like getting aroused and you like the idea that a total stranger would be interested in arousing you sexually. Even if the truth is that you have to BUY this attention! Don't give me "curiosity" as an answer. EVER!
And what kind of women are they? The word "prostitute", translated, is of course a cuss word in most Indian languages. Hell, the word and all its synonyms are all cuss words in every language on earth. Why doesn't a prostitute or a strip-club dancer/performer deserve your respect? Because she makes money from her body. And why does that make her a person of bad repute? Obviously! She has no place in reputable society. She is vermin. Oh! FABULOUS! So what does that make YOU? If having sex with multiple people is a sign of bad character, then how the fuck are you a person of good character? How do you not call yourself a prostitute? How do you not refer to yourself as a person without character?
So if this is so demeaning to women, why DO some women do it? The woman who makes her livelihood by selling to you the right to violate her privacy and her body does it because YOU make it the best option that she has. Because YOU pay her more to arouse your penis than to do anything else. Sometimes you make it the ONLY choice that she has. Because YOU hold the money. Because YOU enslave her. Because YOU think its COOL. Because YOU are curious. Because YOU think you have the right to own her.
And why do YOU go to the strip club or a commercial sex worker? Because the women that YOU want do NOT need you. They have the money to not feel the need to gyrate on your lap make you ejaculate. And who pays the price for your inability to find a woman to do this disgusting act for you for free? The woman who will do it for a price! Because you have left her with no other way of making her living. Because YOU like the feeling of POWER: of being able to force someone to satisfy your sexual urges. Because, for the women who CHOOSE to adopt commercial sex work as a mean of livelihood, indulging in sex work is not a choice anymore. Because the notion of ‘complete’, ‘free’ and ‘informed’ choice is simply an illusion.
Fuck yourself guys! The biggest insult is aimed at you. That you are incapable of finding someone who will love you enough to pamper to your wants. Because you have to BUY it. Because you have to PAY for it.
And what do these supremely arrogant men do? Actively participate in pornography. LIVE. Or have sexual intercourse with a woman who they the pay for the "service". Dont they feel any guilt? Of course not! After all they didnt FORCE the woman into that line of trade! The woman CHOSE to be there. The woman CHOSE her profession. It is not illegal. There was no coercion.
And what is their excuse for doing what they do? Oh I'm sorry! These men (correction... Men in general) don't need an excuse for going to a strip club or a commercial sex worker. Why do they go anyway? "Curiousity" is the number-one answer. What are you curious about? It is not like a zoo now, is it? Those women are there because men like YOU pay them to be there. They do what they do because men like YOU pay them to do it. You like getting aroused and you like the idea that a total stranger would be interested in arousing you sexually. Even if the truth is that you have to BUY this attention! Don't give me "curiosity" as an answer. EVER!
And what kind of women are they? The word "prostitute", translated, is of course a cuss word in most Indian languages. Hell, the word and all its synonyms are all cuss words in every language on earth. Why doesn't a prostitute or a strip-club dancer/performer deserve your respect? Because she makes money from her body. And why does that make her a person of bad repute? Obviously! She has no place in reputable society. She is vermin. Oh! FABULOUS! So what does that make YOU? If having sex with multiple people is a sign of bad character, then how the fuck are you a person of good character? How do you not call yourself a prostitute? How do you not refer to yourself as a person without character?
So if this is so demeaning to women, why DO some women do it? The woman who makes her livelihood by selling to you the right to violate her privacy and her body does it because YOU make it the best option that she has. Because YOU pay her more to arouse your penis than to do anything else. Sometimes you make it the ONLY choice that she has. Because YOU hold the money. Because YOU enslave her. Because YOU think its COOL. Because YOU are curious. Because YOU think you have the right to own her.
And why do YOU go to the strip club or a commercial sex worker? Because the women that YOU want do NOT need you. They have the money to not feel the need to gyrate on your lap make you ejaculate. And who pays the price for your inability to find a woman to do this disgusting act for you for free? The woman who will do it for a price! Because you have left her with no other way of making her living. Because YOU like the feeling of POWER: of being able to force someone to satisfy your sexual urges. Because, for the women who CHOOSE to adopt commercial sex work as a mean of livelihood, indulging in sex work is not a choice anymore. Because the notion of ‘complete’, ‘free’ and ‘informed’ choice is simply an illusion.
Fuck yourself guys! The biggest insult is aimed at you. That you are incapable of finding someone who will love you enough to pamper to your wants. Because you have to BUY it. Because you have to PAY for it.
posted by Sriharsha Salagrama at
12:52 am
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Possibly better background :-)But yeah.. may be worse :D
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Does the woman who makes her livelihood by selling the right to violate her privacy and her body make going to the strip club or prostitution the best option that some guys, who are incapable of finding someone who will love them enough to pamper their wants, have?
What about the men themselves? Do these men make a 'complete','free' and 'informed' choice to pay for sex or to think that they have the right to own another person? Are they responsible for their actions inspite of patriarchal conditioning?
Or shall we now invite Mr.Free-will to join us at the table?
On a tangential note, an interesting question is whether prostitutes are shown greater disrespect by their clients or by men and women from conservative society... I'd guess that it is the latter. And if true, what does that tell you about prostitution?
Hello Sriharsha,
Point completely taken.There are lot of "educated" people who contribute to an equivalent virtual stuff.They have a comfortable notion, "I am not paying anything. I just get to watch". I wonder if they are not aware of the fact that they are indirectly contributing to this evil!
Thanks for providing the link for Math puzzles.
Anon
Female Sex Workers are vulnerable for HIV/AIDS in Bangladesh
Mohammad Khairul Alam
Executive Director
“Rainbow Nari O Shishu Kallyan Foundation”
24/3 M. C. Roy Lane
Dhaka-1211, Bangladesh
Tel: 88028628908,
rainbowngo@gmail.com
The over all HIV/AIDS epidemics situation is low in Bangladesh. But it is increasing very high in some heterogeneous group who are actually vulnerable of HIV/AIDS. HIV/AIDS spread out very quickly in all over the population. There are many ways in Bangladesh to HIV/AIDS increasing issue.
The cause of poverty, gender discrimination, low prevalence of health facility, lack of reproductively knowledge, illiteracy and high risky behavior may be called epidemic in future of Bangladesh. The atmosphere, which is needed to spread HIV as epidemic of HIV/AIDS, those are present in Bangladesh.
It seems that there are three issues that are appearing to play a crucial position in HIV transmission in Bangladesh: female sex work substance use, Intravenous drug use, professional blood donor and mobility. Female sex workers and their clients have been a major factor in the heterosexual transmission of HIV. Separate but unstable epidemics have been seen in some IDU populations in Dhaka city. And mobile populations, particularly at national borders are at higher risk of HIV acquisition due to the fact of being away from home, community and the anonymity and loneliness of traveling. The following three segments focus on the monitoring of the HIV epidemic in these vulnerable populations.
Commercial/Professional sex workers operate in all over the country. But it is important to know how large the sex-worker population may be to adequately interpret surveillance results. It is hypothetical that in some region, rapid increases in the absolute numbers of sex workers have resulted from significant political, social or economic changes. The nature of sex work and the profile of sex workers vary enormously within and between countries. There are most female sex workers, and those that work full-time, part-time or seasonally. Sex workers may operate in variety of settings such as brothels, riverbanks, bars, parks, under contraction buildings, street corners, hotels, etc. Sex work does not consider in Bangladesh, expect 14 reported brothels. Some HIV/AIDS or social workers suspected that brothel sex worker in Bangladesh is limited, near about 35,000 to 45,000, but other category sex workers is no countable, it is suspected more then 1,00,000. Dhaka city, for example, has approximately 5,000-15,000 female sex workers--an estimate (Source: Rainbow Nari O Shishu Kallyan Foundation). In most Cities, however, validated estimates of the numbers of sex workers are almost non-existent.
All estimates require regular updating and validation but these two approaches are worthy of repetition in other settings. Neither method can work without the trust and involvement of commercial sex workers themselves.
Frequency of exposure to HIV infection through sexual intercourse is the key factor for transmission of HIV among sex workers. For example, there are many countries; a significant proportion of sex workers is infected with HIV. The rates might vary from less than 1 percent to 40 percent or higher in some settings.
Even where HIV infection has not yet increase extensively, STD infection is often very high among sex workers. For example, in one brothel area in Bangladesh, 95 percent of 466 sex workers tested positive to antibodies for genital herpes virus and 60 percent for syphilis, although HIV was not detected among any of them. With the sequence of the epidemic, HIV tends to increase where other STDs are present.
There are many aspects to the nexus of drug use and HIV infection, In most of Bangladesh, people who choose to use drugs (Smoking-drug, morphia, heroin, hashish, Medicare-drug some kinds of sleeping pill, cold syrup, injections etc) that are not all socially sanctioned are treated as entirely outside society, enemies even of the social structure. The factor of Injection/ intravenous Drug Users (IDUs), which is directly can influence of HIV/AIDS, STDs/STI. For the majority of injecting drug users (IDUs), it means that lip-service is paid to the principles supposedly learned through the course of the epidemic: in relation to IDUs and the risks of HIV transmission, issues such as human rights, peer education, community participation, and legal and social change are unachievable fictions.
Besides, better estimation of populations at risk (i.e., those currently injecting drugs, or sex partners of IDUs and populations coming to be at risk), and a better understanding of the dynamics of drug utilization and social association of drug use are all necessary for targeting interventions efficiently.
Populations in Bangladesh are moving across land and sea borders in increasing numbers. International trade supports this growth in population mobility, international border between India and Bangladesh, more than 500 trucks come daily. Also occurring in Bangladesh are high levels of maritime trade, and seamen on fishing vessels travel widely in the region, enabling the transmission of HIV to populations in areas where the virus was previously unfamiliar.
Crossing land or sea borders often requires overnight stays, leaving the individual with idle time and opportunities to visit drinking and gambling establishments and brothels. HIV surveillance data for female sex workers, male STD clinic patients and young males at two sea ports – Cittagong & Mongla --show a clustering of high prevalence sites.
Source: Rainbow Nari O Shishu Kallyan Foundation
Spot on commentary. I've always wondered why the prostitues are arrested and paraded in front of the press while the "johns" are allowed anonymity - after all they are supposedly "partners in crime"
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